Step Off The Brakes
We all have at one point or another, stopped ourselves from trying out new things because
we were afraid of what would happen.
Often times, we skip on our promises to exercise more only to justify our need to eat a few
bars of chocolate or step sleep a little bit more. This is the highest level of self sabotage.
Self-sabotage is a behaviour or thought pattern that interferes with our long-standing goals
and overall wellbeing. It might seem like an issue with a simple solution and once we
realise we’re holding ourselves back, we can simply tell ourselves to cut it out. However,
the reality is that self-sabotage is deeply rooted in our thought patterns and then
Self-sabotage occurs when our conscious mind is at odds with our subconscious mind, and
this disconnect manifests itself in sabotaging behaviour. It’s a gradual process, first we
procrastinate until we miss critical deadlines, to working so hard that we completely
neglect any self-care. Self-sabotage is a way our unconscious mind ultimately prevents
anticipated pain or confronting fear. These behaviours often cause shame and lower our
sense of worth, creating an endless cycle of self-sabotage and low self-esteem. We all can
reconcile these internal spirals and move forward with positive goals and behaviours that
align with them.
In order to stop self-sabotage, you first need to understand the workings of the
unconscious mind and draw out what significant experience in particular is responsible for
this behaviour in the first place. Most of us are hardwired with a pesky set of limiting
beliefs which fuel our self-sabotaging behaviour. In order to overcome self-sabotage we
must invest quality time in some serious self-reflection, as at its core, self sabotage is about
confronting dominant beliefs, thought patterns and triggers that spark this subconscious
behaviour to occur. Take time to extensively dig deep into these experiences and the
emotions they stir up and as questions as prompts to explore our potential limiting beliefs
or triggers with more depth and clarity.
This process might bring up some unexpected emotions but we need to get comfortable
confronting our fears. This is because on the other side of freedom lies happiness and
fulfillment. Visualize what it would be like to achieve a long-held dream and deliberate on
every step to be taken towards what could make the experience exciting or challenging.
While at it, consciously take note of any negative emotions like anxieties and fears, amongst
others. Where are they coming from? Do they always come up at a certain point or around
a certain emotion?
The root of our self-sabotage is within these emotions and the best way to move past them
is to confront them head-on. Different strategies will work for different people, however it
is about stepping out of our comfort zone, pushing ourselves to stand up to unrealistic
fears, to confront realistic fears with solutions and zap our sabotaging behaviour.
Rather than projecting our fears, we can go on an intense journey to unlearn our negative
thoughts, beliefs and behaviours. We are more likely to undermine our own potential,
therefore, it is important to practise self love while we seek to reorient our beliefs.Self-love
is never selfish, neither is caring for ourselves to be considered indulgent. Through
compassion, and a commitment to experience a new reality, we can navigate forward past